How to survive a multi-tasked day !

Hello friends, I wish you all a good weekend. 

we all have a day in a week that can just tear us down because of the long list of tasks we need to get done at the end of the day. For some of us, it is everyday of the week. sometimes, the day has not yet started we already feel wreck, unable, limited and downcast. 

Being surrounded by all these feelings is something normal. According to Scientists, our brain's premiere function is to survive. Therefore, I think it could be the reason why we experience these feeling while leading off a multi-tasked day. 

I want us to get rid of all these tasks the day long while keeping happy and confident. Here are steps I experienced and I can assure you, you will be making a change. 

1. Preparation. It is well-known, before every battle, get trained. In our case, we must prepare every singlle part of our being. Mind, soul and body. What I suggest, is to exercise 10mins in the morning at wake up time. You know, exercise has this ammazing way to strenghten you self-confidence and to warm you up enough and makes you feel ready to encounter any battle. You feel powerful, and that is what we need at the beginning of a physically and mentally heavy day. 10mins is enough, try it.

2. keep focusing. Don't let yourself be disturbed along the day, or else, you may not end the day with all things done. You can take a break...no you must take a break each time you feel overwhelmed. Or else, you might want to lay on laziness. To caffein addict, let me tell you it is not the best solution. You feel energized but the truth is the caffein just suck out your energy. Keep your tasks in mind and fix time out on each task.

3. let go the undone. If you end the day with an all-done tasks list, be proud and reward yourself. If unfortunately you end the day with some undone tasks, let go. Just let it go! You have made a mess of your day, there is no reason to do the same with your evening. Relax yourself, enjoy your night and get ready for the next day, you must be paste.

See you soon on next paper...

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Speak up!

Hello friends.

It is no more a secret we all know my interest for self-excellence, force, and braveness just by reading my posts each from the first to now. I am not a passive person of at least I try not to be. I think this world has become a real huge jungle and we are not here to be passive but to strengthen enough our self to rise over every situation, every person, every feeling that tries to hold us down. It must start with a voice.

A closed mouth cannot be feed, said an actress I really love.She is right.Ifwe want to be heard, we must speak and speak so loud to be understood. We must speak promptly and wisely to be acknowledge. If you stand up for something whatever it is, the best way to catch the ears and minds is to raise your voice. If you are afraid to speak try a pen 😆 it is good too, watch me. If someone offends, you say it. If you want something, ask for it. Do whatever you can, but do not stay silent.

Now this is the process friends:

1- Know what you say and care of how you say it. Don’t get involved in things of subjects you know nothing about, in which there is no interests and in which you or your work are not related in any way, otherwise you may just pull some bullshits out. 

2- wait for the best time to speak. Stop speaking uselessly. If I learnt something from Buddhist believers, it is the importance to shut the mouth off when nothing good, wise and useful, intelligently said is going to be express.

3- be true with yourself and with others. What you say will be consider by your audience as what you think. What you stand up for will be consider as your own fight. Your image, your reputation, your relations will be either good or bad just relating to what you have said.

"You get in life what you have the courage to ask for" Oprah Winfrey.

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Be responsible !

Hello friends.

Firstly, let me wish you a sunny and happy sunday. Secondly, let us talk about the responsability of our own lives.

I failed this because someone did this or did not. I did not succeed in this because of this circumstance, because of this person. And so on and so on… and what about you? What have you done? which opportunity have you ever take? We often fail to take responsibility for our life, accusing the fate, the gods, friends and family, poverty of time to deny our own responsibility for our life and future.

I know sometimes it might be difficult, it might be tough and we need to be more than willingly to breakthrough. But even though we may end up saying we have done all it was possible for us to do, give what ever it had cost. This is how we are going to act by now: 

1- Make yours your disappointments and disillusions. I do not have friends because people are fake, I failed this exam because the teacher is a fool, I made mistake because I was not well advised, and others things we used to tell ourselves to put onto others the responsibility of our disappointments instead of put it onto our self. Stop hiding from reality and get some nerves. Ours disappointments are the simple results of our choices. We might have take unappropriate decisions, or we might not give all and every card and best shot we had to it. Or simply, what we wanted was not for us. 

2- Go through every engagement even if it seems not to be as clear as you wish. To live means to celebrate life, give love and receive it as it comes to you, dwell with others in harmony while being responsible for our acts. If you think you are not ready for something, be courageous and honest enough to recognise it and walk away. No one will blame you because you acknowledge your limits or your unskillness, but they will blame you if you fail to go through your engagements. 

3-Take and consider any advice that comes up to you. We may think you already know what to do in each way but sometimes we failed because of our pride and selfishness. We must accept the fact that one may have a better idea. I’m not saying you must do what others want you to do but you must first listen and consider then what to take and what you should not by balancing it with what you want. Wait, listen, watch and then act. 

‘’The price of greatness is the responsibility."-Winston Churchill-

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Don't compare yourself !

Hello friends. 

It's been a long time. I gulped myself in work, study and so many others stuffs that I totally drove out of the blog. But underneath all that preassure, I was restless, always looking for the next topic because I kept in mind my purpose. 

Today, I want to share with you my thoughts about comparizing ourselves, our life to others life. Let me tell what happened to me few weeks ago. I moved to another home. I really like my new place it is calm and cosy. Once, I was walking to my appartment and my neighbor's door was between-opened and I have few seconds look to her home. Instantly, something passed through my mind and I thought her home was more beautiful than mine. But two days after, she invited me to talk and that day I got my revelation. Indeed her home was beautifully decorated but it was smaller than mine, less luminous than mine. From that day I realized my home was perfect for me. It doesn't have enough space but it has everything I need a home and I can hear the birds singing in the morning when I wake up. That day I laughed at myself. It was a stupid thought but it helped me understand that I have not to compare to others. I learned from it and I want you too to learn from this mistake I did. 

Even though you are facing struggles, misunderstood, trials and battles, difficulties, don't compare yourself with others. Don't get involved in it because nothing good ain't never coming out of that. 

Friends, here are three majors reasons we should all start to trust our life and stop comparizing with others life. 

1. It is unproductive. Comparing changes nothing! Instead of waisting time doing comparison with what you have or not to what others have, we should start to accept what we have just as it is. We must find the better way to appreciate what we have. There is always something doing that what you have is particular. In my story above, my home and my neighbor's are the same in terms of space distribution. Each of us have decorated her home as like. But I found a way to love what I have. I enjoy everyday the birds singing and I make it perfect to me.

2. It drives you to jealousy and you will be waisting time. It is not an obligation for us to have the prettiest. What we need is to feel good, happy. Comparing will make you feel like you don't have everything, you don't have enough, but it will never show you what you have. 

3. It demeanishes your own value. You are seeing your life in someone else's mirror and nothing good ain't going to come out of it, trust me. It may seems beautiful to you but it ain't, just because it is not your life, it is not you, and you are demeanishing your value. You are worth, we are all worth, and we have what it takes to become everything we want. What you see now, what you face now, may be painful for you, but you don't have to be sorry of it. Nobody ever says it is going to be pink and nice. Take and own every situation. It is yours.

"Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self" Iyanla Vanzant.

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Attract what you expect!

Hello friends.

I hope your week has been full of grace and surprises. If not, keep in mind that life is a long road to hit. Every day may not be as well as you would have wish. You will find out the beautiful where your hope for something better lies.

Now, let me tell you something I have come to believe that it is the real truth. You can have exactly what you want. That man, that girl, you can have exactly the one that fits you. Careful! I am not saying you will the perfect one. NO! I say you can have the one that fits you. And it is all up to you. You may be asking yourself how you can have it all. It is simple. Attract what you expect!

We have been created to have the good, the beautiful and the marvellous. Now we have to go and get it.

Friends, these are 3 ways to start attracting what you expect and put yourself at the right place.

1.       Be what you deserve. First of all, you have to know what you deserve, know your worth and trust me; there is no other better way to start. If you need, make a list. Don’t be ashamed because it is all about you and no one else. You are fighting for your best. Don’t mind no one’s argument. It is none of their business. When you finally know what you deserve, start being it. Example: if you want a generous person, start to be generous with others. If you want a kind person, be kind with everyone. If you want a God fear person, start building your own spiritual relationship with God. if you want a go-ahead person, dynamic, be dynamic too. Good comes to good, bad comes to bad. If you are good, you are able to recognise bad and say NO. It is not a match, it is reciprocity.

2.       Don’t beg for it, don’t chase it, let it come to you. Let me tell you something. We are winners not losers. We are built to fight and win not to fail. You don’t have to be desperate. Society wants us to be ashamed and frustrated when we do not get in the social frame. When we do things differently, when we think like the smartest people we really are.  But guess I don’t care and I would not and never care. This has to be your refrain. Say: “I don’t care. My life is too worth it to be assimilated”. You don’t have to beg for attention, for love, for respect, for kindness. Give it to yourself. You owe it to you first. Then, let people give it to you. If they don’t, let them take the road.

3.       Never compromise with yourself. I worked in an office about one year ago as intern. My boss was such a wise and God fear woman. When I came to the end of my internship, she lovely told me: “Daughter, do not compromise with yourself. Never!” I never forgot it. Compromising with yourself simply means not doing what you want to do just because that's not what someone else/society/system wants. Don't let your best friend down. Your best friend is YOU. 

“I can accept anything, except what seems to be the easiest for most people: the half-way, the almost, the just-about, the in-between.” Ayn Rand

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Don't let stress undermine you !

Hello friends.

I hope everyone is ok. Today I'm going to talk about how to overcome stress in life. Although it's not possible to completely eliminate all stress, too much can be detrimental to your well-being.

Stress is a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances. Stress is your body's way of responding to any kind of demand. It can be caused by both good and bad experiences. When people feel stressed by something going on around them, their bodies react by releasing chemicals into the blood.

Feel stressed is not as bad as we think but as aforesaid, too much can be detrimental to our well-being and your health. I’m going to share with you three simple ways to overcome stress in life.

1.    Exercise is crucial. A healthy lifestyle for both physical and mental health is important. Make a workout routine. Once, twice or every day and make sure you follow it as well. Choose exercise that fits you. Certain activities may help you to a better mindset like running, swimming, boxing;

2.    Have a positive attitude. It is all about positive mindset. Rather than say, "This is the worst day ever," say, "Today was a bad day but I’m good “. There is no need to feel diminished because it will not change the situation, it will only serve to change your happiness, your peace into stress and sadness;

3.    Don’t let toxic people and toxic relationships drag you down. Toxic people generally are unfriendly, judgemental, unkind, filled us we complaints that can bring us down. it's important to identify this persons around you or the relationship and establish boundaries. Don't allow yourself to be sucked in. You can be polite, and still simply avoid them as much as possible, and cut out the stress they bring as a result.

However, if you put this advices into actions, you will have done one more step to a better life. Stay confident and take care.

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Celebrate achievements !

Hello friends.

Friday is a particular day for me. I really like it and it is not just because it introduces the week-end, but more because it is time for the retrospective of the week. It is the day for me to sit and review all those things I noted on my agenda as tasks for every day. The things I have done, and also the things I have not done. What I do this day, is celebration. Yes! It may seems curious but yes I celebrate. I celebrate at the end of the day, all my achievements along the week, from the smallest to the biggest. I am sure you want to know how I celebrate my achievements. I do something for myself that will me feel very happy cause I am proud of what I’ve done. So, Friday night I offer myself a glass of red wine 😍 hummm I really like it, or a big cup of ice cream 😋. Those are the two little things I really like. I don't do this every day because you know I really care of my health.

So today, my purpose, by tell you how I spend my Friday, is to help you realise that you should celebrate every single achievement.  We are so tough with ourselves, so unkind sometimes and I know it just by looking around me how people are so frustrated. Comforting ourselves in this behaviour is killing our happiness, the part of joy in us that helps us to see the world in a beautiful way. 

I really want us to get out of that attitude we have sometimes to ignore what we are doing. If someone does not tell you “hey, good job dude!” or “ girl, you got it”, you have the obligation to tell it to yourself. Tell yourself you are good, tell yourself you did it well.

So, this is how we are going to overcome.

1.       Pay attention on what you do along the day. The best way I think to help you know what you have been doing along the day at the end, is to hand a note book. For me, I used to work with notes, that I draw at night the day before or earlier in the morning when I wake up. By doing this, we can easily pay attention on what we are doing and at the end of the day or the end of the week, we can have a review of our achievements;

2.       There is no little victory. Every little single accomplishment is a victory. Keep in mind that you are doing things for you not for the greatness of someone else. So if you do wrong, you are doing it to you;

3.       Reward yourself for the accomplishment and forgive yourself for what you have not done. It is the key of inner peace. Reward for the good, forgive for the unsuccesful. we all worth it. Choose the celebration that fits you and make sure you keep your happiness.

Hope this post will inspire more than one. I don’t know what you have planned for the week but I am going to read more and edified you next week. I wish you a nice week-end.

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Everything you want, you have got it !

Hello friends.

Hope everyone is ok. The world surrounding us the most part of time is not as fair as we would have wish. But it is not a reason to surrender. It is not a reason to lie on our bed and spend the whole day, weeks after weeks, month after month, crying, doubting, depressing and hating the rest of the world. We all have weakness but It is time to be brave. Yes! This is the remix of Jenifer Lopez song “Brave”. She says: “it’s time to be brave, say I’m not afraid, not anymore...”. Yes, this is a winner’s mindset. This shall be our slogan every day.

Now let me tell you something: everything you want, you’ve got it. Yes it is so simple. But No, all those things you want won’t come your way and meet you unless you pick up your bottom on your bed, sit down your desk or leaving your comfort zone and start working like the fighter you are. I used to say to myself, I am a Warrior. I say it every time, every day, just as I drink a glass of water. And I have been saying it so many times to myself that now I really am a Warrior. I act like a warrior, stand like it, think like it work like it, I even walk like a warrior. And now everything I want I know I have got it because I have what it takes. And if I can do this, we all can. Yes we can! We can ourselves great again!😃

Let me show you how we can all climb across this mountain that represents our weakness.

1.       Stop denigrating yourself. You are killing you inner every time you denigrate yourself. “I am not strong”, “I am not able”, “I cannot”, “I am not sure I am ready for this”, “I am not sure I can do this”,  “I am not the one that fit for this job”, “I cannot take it for a long time” 😒 Please friends we have to stop this bullshit we used to tell ourselves. And for those who are still doing it, stop it cause I am sure you do not want me to pull you out of your bed by force 😆;

2.       Involve yourself in everything you do. I know, cause I have been doing it also, sometimes we do things without any kind of investment, we just do them because they have to be done.  No implication, because we tell ourselves there is no interest for us. But we have to set up a new mind and tell ourselves that doing all those things, fixing all those stuffs is not for others, it is not just to check it on the to do list, but it is an occasion for us to make something good and well done;

3.       Hang on. It is not going to be easier every day but we have to hang on. No one ever says life is a long and restful path. We just have to find the strength to cross every struggle on the way and make sure we get up when we fall down.

Hope you will find this post interesting and inspiring. I wish you a good day.

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Find out your talent !

Hello friends.

Hope everyone is ok. If someone does not feel good, don’t worry nothing bad lasts forever. Just keep pushing harder, hustling, doing things that you love.

This day I want us to talk about Talents and how we can find out our talents. You know, sometimes what we are really made for is not so obvious to our eyes, it can take time, failures, disappointments for us to finally be conscious of what we have been made for. And by the time we found the purpose, we are fulfilled, happy and ready for success.

what is a talent? A talent is a gift, an aptitude, that someone naturally has to do something. we are all born with talents. it is not a skill. a skill is a learnt ability but a talent innate. Let me take an example: self-motivation is a skill, work under preasure is a skill. But writing is a talent, singing is a talent, drawing is a talent and so on. Your talent is your brand, it is your different and particular aspect that distinguish you from others. 

Oprah Winfrey said « I've come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that's as unique as a fingerprint ». We all have something different. I am not Miss anyone, you are not Mr anyone, we are each a person, that cannot be found anywhere in this world. So trust your talent, we are all made to succeed. Find out now what your talent is, and work on it every day to reach your fullest potential. I am not telling you to find your passion out, because you may not always be talented in your passion, but your talent, if you work it out really, will become your passion. Trust me.

How can we easily find our talent out?

1.       Ask a friend. Take one of your friend who knows you the best and that you are sure he or she will be sincere.

2.       Accept yourself. We do not have to be ashame of what we good in because what we can do so easily, some does not. It is our special thing that only us can do in a different way. There is no biggest or greatest talent, there is just talents, and talented person.

3.       It is a simple and little thing you like to do and that is easier for you to do. I am not saying something you imagine yourself in, but a thing you are doing, that allows you to express the real you. Now take a time to reflection and look around you, look inside of you, and see what is your calling.

It is not bad if we find out the wrong talent the first time. Look, it took me many years to find that my talent is writing. Yes! But it was something I have been doing since the age of 11. I did it in my free time and now I am doing it as my job. And trust me, the day I found it was the day I started to believe that I am special, I am worthy, I matter. 

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